Breast Cancer: what do I write to a friend who just was diagnosed with breast cancer

what do I write to a friend who just was diagnosed with breast cancer?
A friend called me to let me know that another friend was diagnosed with breast cancer and that she was recovering right now at home. I would like to send a card and say something nice...I can not find really any words to express myself. We are not close friends. Any ideas? When I say "we are not close friends" I mean that we do not ever write to each other. I also live in another state now, but back then when we lived close to each other we loved to chat and talk.
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If you can, call her. If you can't, she needs to know that friends will still stay in touch. She probably will have chemo and you feel lousy during this time. She will have little energy. Tell her you heard that she was diagnosed with breast cancer and you are sorry for what she is going through. Let her know you are thinkilng of her and if it would be possible to get together when she is up to it you would like that.
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I am not sure but i say I am here to help you if y ou need me for a errand or anything. My best to you.
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Heart-felt words of encouragement are always welcome when dealing with difficult situations. Tell this woman that you heard of her illness and that you are concerned for her well-being. Tell her, in your own words, that you are thinking of her. If you pray, you can add that you will keep her in your prayers. It is a wonderful gesture, one that I am sure she will appreciate.
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Just a simple note saying Thinking of You or You are in my prayers. Keep it short a sweet and nice little spring flower arrangement would be nice....If you live close, taking over a casserole or lasagna would be great and you would get to say hi in person....
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How about just writing her a nice letter saying that you just wanted to keep in touch and hope that all is well with her and her family. My reason for that is, she may not want you to even know that she has been diagnosed with cancer and you need to respect her right to privacy. If you just say that your writing to say hi and touch base with her etc. you give her the chance to decide if she wants you to know or not. Don't force her hand and cause her any more discomfort then she is already in. If she wants you to know she will respond back with that information, then you can reply accordingly. If she wants it to stay private and only tell her closest friends then respect that also and let it go.
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You know the real thing to figure out is whether you want to be close friends now that this has happeend. If the answer is yes, pay her a visit or call her and tell her that you will be there for her, whatever she needs. If your okay wiith your current relationship i suggest you send a card that tells her that if she needs anything at all to call, or write you, and rather than saying something like "i hope you feel better" etc. try saying "Dont' worrry, I will be there to help you get through it" When i was in the hospital i found that i had friends that i hadn't talked to in years who were genuinly there for me and i appreciated that sentiment.
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Imagine that your - not close - "friend" walked into the room. What would you say? Hallo...How are you... I heard.. I'm so sorry.. Since you don't value the "friend" much, you might consider not writing at all. If you write, you risk raising hopes that you care enough to follow up. If you don't plan to follow up, you'd probably do better not to disappoint the person.
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While my mom was at home recovering several people sent cards in the mail. They were just thinking of you cards. They didn't have to write anything inside the card, it was just nice to know that people were concerned for her and wanted to wish her well. If you are not close to this person, I would say a nice card is all you really need to do. I think this would be a wonderful gesture.
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Why not just send a Thinking Of You card and mention that you heard what she is going through

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what do I write to a friend who just was diagnosed with breast cancer